One Miles per hour

My Swedish American love story.

Category: baby talk

spoke too soon

Ok so last night didn’t go AT ALL as planned.

I tried to put Miles to bed around 8pm since he was acting tired and his nap was about 4 hours earlier. It was a pain, he spent the whole time talking, yelling, playing with his blankets, rolling around, kicking me, and distracting himself with just about everything in the room.

I gave up.

Marcus took him for awhile and they played somewhere (this usually tires him out). After another 20 minutes I tried again, same thing, he was acting super frustrated kept nursing and releasing, spitting his pacifier out and biting his own arms and blanket. Yesterday we noticed the top of a little white tooth finally poking out on his bottom gum. This would mark the start of his first tooth and explain the bedtime resistance… poor little man.

anyways about an hour and a half later of trying he finally just laid there quietly, facing away from me, and talked himself to sleep. Once he was asleep he didn’t wake till about 4/5am and slept till 8:15! I can’t imagine the pain of a tooth cutting through the gums… and this is only the beginning.

This morning when it was nap time he did the same thing! He loves his 9/930 am nap and wouldn’t miss it no matter where he was, how loud it was, or who put him down. This time was different… frustrated, whining, sweating, crying, everything but sleeping. He would close his eyes and face me for cuddles for a few seconds then rip his pacifier out and start crying again 😦 I gave into the power of infant ibuprofen this time… I am hoping it helps with some of the pain and allows the little man some proper sleep.

lord get me through these next few weeks.months.years

I am not big on using medicine and at this rate I can imagine it being painful day in and day out so anyone have any tips on home remedies? Besides teething toys, frozen toys, blah blah… we’ve tried those and they’re either too cold to hold or thaw out too quickly.

tips are greatly appreciated
-love a tired mamma


real talk

This post may or may not be interesting to those of you without a baby but I thought I would share the habits and routines we have here at ”home”. (note: these will all dramatically change once we travel through time -9 hours when we fly back to Cali)

So once Miles was about 3/4 months he started sleeping through the night or waking once to nurse at the most around 2/3am. He went to bed by 730 and woke up around 7/8. Like I’ve mentioned 3289723 times he didn’t handle the jet lag too well and luckily since he’s still young we flipped the routine pretty easily and the last month he has been sleeping fine. His naps are regulated to about once around 930am, once around 1pm and a late afternoon nap around 4/5pm. He has now stretched his bedtime to about 830/9 which is fine since the sun doesn’t set till around 11pm anyways here during the summer.

The only issue we have had since coming here is that he wants to either spoon with me till he falls asleep or nurse till he’s just about passed out and I sneak in a pacifier. I love this more than anything but it makes it difficult for me to leave ever for any reason. If Marcus or anyone else lays with him he just about screams and cries himself to sleep, which I hate & don’t feel is necessary for a baby his age. I have had to pass on plenty of dinner invites, parties that start earlier than 930pm or drinking wine before he’s asleep. (ok that made me sound like an alchy but you know what I mean ;)) So after racking my brain coming up with different ideas I have decided to start bottle feeding more often than I have been… which has been maybe 3 times since we have been here. I have been with Miles all day every day for the most part or only gone a couple hours and back in time for a feeding. Miles will drink a bottle if he absolutely HAS to and the only bottles we have ever tried, bought or used are Avent, and he’s still using the newborn nipple since he basically drowns with any other level ones.

Ok… so what’s the problem? The problem is he puts up a horrible fight over drinking from a bottle and even after it’s done he tantrums and acts like a maniac because it wasn’t as satisfying as mamma. Which means when I do drink, he will eat and take a bottle but he’s miserable and crying anyways .

new plan: before this post gets any longer I have started bottle feeding and taking turns doing it with Marcus while I am around so he doesn’t think boobies are the only way he can eat. I also don’t want him to relate a bottle to ONLY Marcus and me being gone. Yesterday he took a bottle without a fight and passed out while drinking in his stroller while we were out shopping. Tonight was a little harder but I ended up holding him on my side hip and Marcus & I took turns feeding him while I stood and watched and comforted with just my voice.

I was thrilled to see this work 😀
After his bottle we played a bit and I went into the room, laid him in his bed and he fell asleep without me laying next to him . Maybe today was a lucky day but I am now going to bottle feed before bed so he 1. Gets a full belly 2. Gets used to the idea of me not ALWAYS being there 3. I don’t have to be the only one doing bedtime

ps when I say he has a bottle I mean it’s filled with breastmilkk. I plan on breastfeeding till he’s 1 at least but would like to introduce more foods in the meantime so it’s not his only source of nutrition and other people can have fun feeding too 😀 Is it just me or do any of you mammas get super excited when something works.. I felt really proud tonight of both me and Marcus and somedays when we feel like we’re totally failing I will remember a moment like tonight when we put our brains together and re trained our little man.

My goal: Miles to be comfortable drinking from a bottle from anyone if need be & for him to be able to be laid in his crib/bed/our bed when it’s time and fall asleep with his pacifier and lovie.

ps: we have stopped co sleeping as the bed situation we have now isn’t big enough or safe enough for Miles & he has been sleeping in another room because it’s darker and less noisy since we watch TV, and stay up late. The last 4 nights he hasn’t woke up once from 8/9pm-6am! I have woken up engorged and panicking that something has happened to him and begged Marcus to go check because I couldn’t handle… he has just been sound asleep. I am so proud of him but my swollen boobs are taking the toll. I have been pumping like crazy both for a back up supply and to keep producing!

hope this helps any other struggling mommies out there.
ps: as for getting him to take the bottle. It has helped when we give it to him before we think he will start fussing and sometimes we place it next to him laying down and he plays with it for a bit and feeds himself. We try not to make it a big deal, hold him when he’s eating (unless it’s in an upright position) and we keep it stress free and relaxed. This kid really feeds off our emotions and does so much better when things are ”chill”



aja baja

So far nothing within Miles’ reach is safe. He luckily isn’t crawling or pulling himself up onto things yet but HELL is going to break loose when that day comes. So far his highchair can only be in the absolute CENTER of a room away from everything.

Today I placed him in the kitchen with some cucumber sticks next to the dining room table and stupidly decided it was time to pee for the first time all day. Silly mamma… you don’t get potty breaks.

Anyways I come back to drawers that were within reach open and everything in them thrown onto the floor and/or in his mouth. As much as I love his curiosity I don’t even know where to begin with baby proofing.

as for today Marcus had football and I wandered the streets in search for the perfect hat. Done 🙂 (pictures coming later when I have the energy)
After a kebab pita roll because my fav. indian rest. was finished with their lunch special of the day Miles & i made our way back home.

After a few naps, movies, reading, playing, a glass of wine, a bath session on the balcony in the warm summer sun (ended abruptly after the water turned brown and green if you know what I mean) daddy came home and it was time for dinner & bedtime for Miles.



zoo day with my babe

Yesterday we spent the day at the zoo, Skansen, here in Stockholm. After a train ride into the city and another train ride along the water we finally arrived. Miles loves the train luckily and even though he tries to lick and suck on all the handles and poles the smile he puts on stranger’s faces makes it all worth it.

The zoo was HUGE so to speak. We spent a lot of time walking around and talking and taking care of Miles, more than actually looking at animals. Most of the animals were either hiding surrounded by huge groups of people so getting a good look at them was almost impossible. I finally got to see the bears. I had only been here during the late fall and winter and they were hibernating so this time they were all out running around, laying around, climbing trees & just being as cute as possible. Miles loves animals believe it or not and his favorite were the sheep and goats because they actually came close to us and yelled & jumped around. Maybe owning a farm is something we should look into 😉

The last few weeks he has been really paying attention to the smallest details and it’s adorable. He can spot a tag on something from a mile away (exaggerating mamma) & loves zippers, buttons and just about anything he gets his hands on. He will grab a toy or piece of food I give and turn it all angles, look inside, underneath & then swap hands and do it all over again. Then it goes straight into the mouth for a final analysis. I remember the days when he would spit his pacifier out and I would have to reach my hand back while driving or pick it up off the floor 238742873 times. Now he takes it out and puts it back in as needed. Sometimes he will just be playing amongst a pile of toys and spot his pacifier and all the sudden it’s in his mouth. cute.

He even stops to look at it first, adjusting it in his hands to find the right spot. Sometimes it goes in upside down and either way he just sucks proudly 🙂

ya I sound proud… it’s the smallest things this little babe does that just put a smile on my face. Things I try and document and take pictures of. Thanks to him my phone has had to be uploaded onto a hard-drive almost 4 times since he’s been born haha… I miss the good old days when you would take a picture hoping it turned out and going to get them developed and having to wait 4-7 days before the results. Usually 40% of them came out the way they were supposed to while the rest were just a blurr or a moment in time you had forgotten even happened …. My plan when I get back is to buy an old school polaroid camera. I know the film is expensive so I’ll use it for special occasions.

plan B: Get all my pictures from day 1 developed off my phone and hard-drive. Turns out it was already going to be around $50 when I tried after just 4 months of Miles being in our lives. Can’t imagine now 4 months later and a whole country of photos. YIKES

ps thanks to a beautiful mess I downloaded the latest app PartyPartyApp! Check them out. It’s already #1 in the App Store and super fun for taking photo booth, slideshow, cropped pictures… ❤







being preggo

The connection we had. The feeling of knowing you were in there and getting to enjoy every breath and step I took knowing you were growing from it. Choosing healthy options & making smart decisions from eating to working out, lifting, and skipping my favorite drink besides water. wine.

I remember HATING being pregnant for almost 90% of it since I was sick beyond belief for most of it and couldn’t even stand being in a grocery store or anywhere that served food. I lived off smoothies and crisp bread with cucumber and butter & surprisingly steak the last month or so.

steak for breakfast, lunch & dinner. Thank you Marcus for sitting alongside me, not judging, and keeping my steak stock up in the fridge ❤ love you

I remember constantly saying I would never do this again and couldn't imagine going through another 9 months & then the second that little screaming body covered in goo was ripped out of me I knew. I could do it 2389791273 times again….

I didn't think I would ever forget the troubles I had during pregnancy but now it all seems like such a blurr. You are the most best amazing, cutest, pain in the ass ball of love that has ever happened to me Miles & I can't imagine life without you.

From the second I knew I was pregnant and was forced to cancel my 5 day dive trip, my job at a winery & stop eating sushi I knew you were gonna be a tough one… 9 months later & a c -section because you were more comfortable right side up your here raising hell and demanding daddy & my attention constantly. I love it. I see so much of myself in you & can't wait to watch you grow and fight your way through life.

As for getting pregnant again. Maybe someday. Not now. I've got my hands full making sure I do this little boy right first & give him every piece of my heart for a few years at least 🙂

baby led weaning cont..

Miles is loving our new baby led weaning method . I am basically giving him whatever I can (that’s safe) and if he likes it great, if not we move on to something else. So far he loves cucumber sticks, strawberries, apples, crackers, pear.

Cucumber is a favorite by far & it must be because of it’s tough skin that feels amazing on his gums and the watery juice that falls from the inside. Strawberries & apple are probably his favorite combo 🙂

I am so excited things are finally working out, I thought I would have to breastfeed him forever :p tomorrow I plan on trying a little chicken or white fish… any tips on baby led friendly foods? I am in no rush to replace breastfeeding but it’s nice to give him something to stay busy with while mommy and daddy eat & give him the chance to explore new and exciting tastes and textures.





Mommy bloggers meet!

Today Miles and I were invited to an event for mommy bloggers in Stockholm. We originally planned on meeting at a local park for a picnic but unfortunately the weather didn’t permit and we met at “playland” an indoor play area for kids. We were around 30 mommies all with strollers of course so you can imagine the chaos.

The event was sponsored by aloe Vera drink and Ella’s Kitchen. It was an awesome afternoon with lots of adorable babies and super nice moms. I got to finally meet Angie a friend of mine who I met basically on Instagram who has a baby the same age as Miles. His name is Alvar and he’s absolutely adorable 🙂

She lives about 45 min north but we plan on getting together as much as possible!

After a mission back to the suburbs via train and subway we made it in time to make dinner before Marcus headed off to soccer practice. It’s such a pain in the ass at times to take the subway with a stroller. Either the elevators broken, there are too many people waiting for it, you get stuck moving through a crowd, you get stuck going through the pay stalls, or you have trouble getting the stroller on and off the subway. I used to love Stockholm for their transportation and now I realize how amazing it is to have a car or carry him in just his ergo which I’ve been doing more and more.

Well it’s been a long day for the both of us. Miles just fell asleep and now it’s time for some candy and a movie.

Puss puss







Miles has started to eat puréed foods over the last few days. Being a blog reader myself I’ve heard many good things about a brand here in Sweden called Ella’s Kitchen. It’s an organic Eco friendly baby food company that makes tasty squeeze packets of puréed foods for babies. I started with the most basic breakfast one which was a combination of rice, yogurt and banana. He has had small tastes of Greek yogurt, banana, strawberry and avocado back home but never more than a few spoonfuls.

I know many people want to push babies into eating foods as soon as possible ( my mom being one of them) but for me there is no rush. Everyone does things differently and that’s the beauty with raising your own baby. My mom and I go head to head over almost everything I decide to do with miles and it’s very hard for her to let me control things for once…. Anyways. That’s a whole different issue.

Miles enjoys breastfeeding, I enjoy breastfeeding, he’s gaining accordingly, it’s cheap, it’s convenient and it works for soothing almost anything. The best part is I don’t have to wake up and make bottles …. Nothing against formula fed babies. Everyone has their own life and decision to make and I totally respect it. Someday when Miles has his own kids I’ll have to understand he and his wife will do as they wish. That’s just how it is 😉 I personally just love breastfeeding and so does Miles.

well anyways. I’ve decided to take a more baby lead weaning approach in which I let Miles do the leading. I slowly introduce foods as they come and there’s no pressure. Lately he’s been showing a lot of interest in our foods and what were eating so depending what it is, usually fruits or veggies I’ll give him a smashed up taste.

So we have no started puréed foods for breakfast along with breastfeeding and I don’t plan on doing anymore than that just yet. Mainly because I know it’ll just add more to my plate. I’m also bummed I can’t make my own here without my nutribullet or blender but when I get back home… It’s on!





Teething babe

It’s officially began. Miles has definitely started teething the last couple days. He’s fussy and wants nothing more than to nurse and nap :/ I finally got him to relax in his bouncy chair without me as long as he watches Barney, holds his blankie, and sucks his pacifier. Poor babe 😦 lucky for me it means extra snuggles but my arms are killing me from holding him all day.


Avoiding the heat


It seriously has been the hottest it’s ever been in Santa Barbara. Yesterday pushed 100f (39c) and today is supposed to be even hotter. Guess that means time for the beach again!

Miles is so restless at night and can only sleep in a diaper since our apartment is so hot! He went to be at 6:45 last night exhausted from the heat which of course means he was up at 6 this morning 😦 wahhhhh

He’s craZy in his playgym lately. He spins all around in it playing with all corners and this morning he had his foot through a link and his arm through a soft book toy he has. Cute :)he’s starting to scoot towards anything he can grab too…. Yesterday he wiggled his way to our coffee table and started pulling books and papers out from under it. My little busig babe 😉

This morning I’m taking the car in for an oil change downtown then I’ve got a horrible dreaded dentist apt which Charlotte is going to watch Miles for since Marcus is in school :/ after the dentist guess where we’re headed… The beach!

Stay cool!