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& then it happened

Something magical happened around the time Miles turned 8 months old. I’ve been trying to get Miles used to falling asleep or taking a bottle from Marcus or anyone else beside me.

Out of no where he started enjoying bottles as long as they were warm and he drank them either being held on our hip or in his car seat or stroller. He also started falling asleep without me or nursing. We started with giving a bottle a day at random times to get him used to it. I was around during the bottle feeding so he didn’t think the bottle meant no mommy.

Marcus can now bottle feed and put him to sleep. Suchhhhhh a relief for me. He just goes and lays down for a few minutes and pats his butt and that’s it…. Amazing.

I honestly have no tip or idea as to how this happened. I swear he just grew out of it and having a bottle of breast milk every now and then got him used to relying on others just as much as mommy.

Anyways so I took advantage of this and went out for dinner and wine with friends last night & usually I get a chaotic snap chat or update from the madness back home and I rush home or Miles ends up crying himself to sleep. This time he drank his bottle, watched TV with daddy & grandpa then fell asleep cuddling with daddy in bed. Not a single whine or issue. Love love love it.

Just in time for a big party Marcus and I are going to this Saturday as we may or May not be the ones putting him to sleep.
Love a well rested mommy
❤️

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real talk

This post may or may not be interesting to those of you without a baby but I thought I would share the habits and routines we have here at ”home”. (note: these will all dramatically change once we travel through time -9 hours when we fly back to Cali)

So once Miles was about 3/4 months he started sleeping through the night or waking once to nurse at the most around 2/3am. He went to bed by 730 and woke up around 7/8. Like I’ve mentioned 3289723 times he didn’t handle the jet lag too well and luckily since he’s still young we flipped the routine pretty easily and the last month he has been sleeping fine. His naps are regulated to about once around 930am, once around 1pm and a late afternoon nap around 4/5pm. He has now stretched his bedtime to about 830/9 which is fine since the sun doesn’t set till around 11pm anyways here during the summer.

The only issue we have had since coming here is that he wants to either spoon with me till he falls asleep or nurse till he’s just about passed out and I sneak in a pacifier. I love this more than anything but it makes it difficult for me to leave ever for any reason. If Marcus or anyone else lays with him he just about screams and cries himself to sleep, which I hate & don’t feel is necessary for a baby his age. I have had to pass on plenty of dinner invites, parties that start earlier than 930pm or drinking wine before he’s asleep. (ok that made me sound like an alchy but you know what I mean ;)) So after racking my brain coming up with different ideas I have decided to start bottle feeding more often than I have been… which has been maybe 3 times since we have been here. I have been with Miles all day every day for the most part or only gone a couple hours and back in time for a feeding. Miles will drink a bottle if he absolutely HAS to and the only bottles we have ever tried, bought or used are Avent, and he’s still using the newborn nipple since he basically drowns with any other level ones.

Ok… so what’s the problem? The problem is he puts up a horrible fight over drinking from a bottle and even after it’s done he tantrums and acts like a maniac because it wasn’t as satisfying as mamma. Which means when I do drink, he will eat and take a bottle but he’s miserable and crying anyways .

new plan: before this post gets any longer I have started bottle feeding and taking turns doing it with Marcus while I am around so he doesn’t think boobies are the only way he can eat. I also don’t want him to relate a bottle to ONLY Marcus and me being gone. Yesterday he took a bottle without a fight and passed out while drinking in his stroller while we were out shopping. Tonight was a little harder but I ended up holding him on my side hip and Marcus & I took turns feeding him while I stood and watched and comforted with just my voice.

I was thrilled to see this work 😀
After his bottle we played a bit and I went into the room, laid him in his bed and he fell asleep without me laying next to him . Maybe today was a lucky day but I am now going to bottle feed before bed so he 1. Gets a full belly 2. Gets used to the idea of me not ALWAYS being there 3. I don’t have to be the only one doing bedtime

ps when I say he has a bottle I mean it’s filled with breastmilkk. I plan on breastfeeding till he’s 1 at least but would like to introduce more foods in the meantime so it’s not his only source of nutrition and other people can have fun feeding too 😀 Is it just me or do any of you mammas get super excited when something works.. I felt really proud tonight of both me and Marcus and somedays when we feel like we’re totally failing I will remember a moment like tonight when we put our brains together and re trained our little man.

My goal: Miles to be comfortable drinking from a bottle from anyone if need be & for him to be able to be laid in his crib/bed/our bed when it’s time and fall asleep with his pacifier and lovie.

ps: we have stopped co sleeping as the bed situation we have now isn’t big enough or safe enough for Miles & he has been sleeping in another room because it’s darker and less noisy since we watch TV, and stay up late. The last 4 nights he hasn’t woke up once from 8/9pm-6am! I have woken up engorged and panicking that something has happened to him and begged Marcus to go check because I couldn’t handle… he has just been sound asleep. I am so proud of him but my swollen boobs are taking the toll. I have been pumping like crazy both for a back up supply and to keep producing!

hope this helps any other struggling mommies out there.
ps: as for getting him to take the bottle. It has helped when we give it to him before we think he will start fussing and sometimes we place it next to him laying down and he plays with it for a bit and feeds himself. We try not to make it a big deal, hold him when he’s eating (unless it’s in an upright position) and we keep it stress free and relaxed. This kid really feeds off our emotions and does so much better when things are ”chill”

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My favorite

Went to djursholm for lunch at Fannys parents house this afternoon. Miles slept for most of the night last night and woke up around 730. We had breakfast and got ready and headed out with Fanny 🙂

I love where her parents live. It’s the biggest most beautiful house in the best suburb outside of the city. We hung out with her little sister and harassed Miles before going on a long walk around. It’s still cold and grey here which is crazy considering it was almost 90f 30c the first two days we were here! We planned on going to a museum or something but don’t have the urge to leave the house in this weather.

Miles has been more cranky than usual today and just wants to nurse and sleep. Damn jetlag and teething 😦 anyways he slept during our walk and I’m now nursing him for the 3rd time in the last couple hours blahhhhhh

Heading home soon for a fika with Marcus grandma who hasn’t met Miles yet 🙂

Puss puss

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Finally

Miles has started to eat puréed foods over the last few days. Being a blog reader myself I’ve heard many good things about a brand here in Sweden called Ella’s Kitchen. It’s an organic Eco friendly baby food company that makes tasty squeeze packets of puréed foods for babies. I started with the most basic breakfast one which was a combination of rice, yogurt and banana. He has had small tastes of Greek yogurt, banana, strawberry and avocado back home but never more than a few spoonfuls.

I know many people want to push babies into eating foods as soon as possible ( my mom being one of them) but for me there is no rush. Everyone does things differently and that’s the beauty with raising your own baby. My mom and I go head to head over almost everything I decide to do with miles and it’s very hard for her to let me control things for once…. Anyways. That’s a whole different issue.

Miles enjoys breastfeeding, I enjoy breastfeeding, he’s gaining accordingly, it’s cheap, it’s convenient and it works for soothing almost anything. The best part is I don’t have to wake up and make bottles …. Nothing against formula fed babies. Everyone has their own life and decision to make and I totally respect it. Someday when Miles has his own kids I’ll have to understand he and his wife will do as they wish. That’s just how it is 😉 I personally just love breastfeeding and so does Miles.

well anyways. I’ve decided to take a more baby lead weaning approach in which I let Miles do the leading. I slowly introduce foods as they come and there’s no pressure. Lately he’s been showing a lot of interest in our foods and what were eating so depending what it is, usually fruits or veggies I’ll give him a smashed up taste.

So we have no started puréed foods for breakfast along with breastfeeding and I don’t plan on doing anymore than that just yet. Mainly because I know it’ll just add more to my plate. I’m also bummed I can’t make my own here without my nutribullet or blender but when I get back home… It’s on!

🙂
Thoughts?

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Whoops

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Sorry about the horrible updating. Friday morning was chaos! We popped in on a Friday swim class for Miles since I would be I’m LA all weekend visiting my family. It was his last and final class which meant he did his final swim! He was pushed 3 feet under water and through a hula hoop then let go and since babies are born with a natural reflex that sticks around till about 8 months, he kicked his way to the surface then flipped over on his back 🙂 all while holding his breath! He’s my little fish for sure!

After his lesson if went straight to LA and luckily since after swim he’s super tired he slept the whole way to LB! It took is about 2 hr 30 min with a little traffic which isn’t too bad.
Marcus unfortunately stayed in SB this time since he has finals this coming week and needed to get some study time in… We all know the best way to do that is without Miles & mamma 😉

The night before we went out for wine with a bunch of friends since it was too hot to be in the apartment. I spent almost all last week at the beach from morning till night because it was 100f 38c! Insane for Santa Barbara!!!!! We only stayed out till about 930 because this time we attempted to bring Miles and get him to sleep in his stroller. This didn’t work unfortunately because he was distracted by the noise and all of us talking and laughing :/

So now I’m in Long beach at my parents. My mom had her jewelry party the first night which I made awesome sales at and yesterday miles and I went to my friends baby’s 1st birthday party ! I remember going to her baby shower like it was yesterday!

Anyways today, depending on the weather, I think Miles and I might hit the beach 🙂

There’s a quick little update for you guys! More to come later today

Puss puss

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Summerland and pacifiers

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My good friend Charlotte is in town from Norway and what better time to visit Santa Barbara than when it’s a scorching 96 degrees. So we hit the beach. It’s been miles and my hangout/hideaway for the past couple weeks.

I found myself spending too much money just walking around downtown either shopping or eating so the beach is far away enough and just as entertaining for both of us 🙂 after lunch at my favorite beachside grill we had coffee at cafe Luna in summerland then laid on the beach for a bit more as the crowds of people rolled in, all obviously escaping their hot houses since SB doesn’t believe in AC. I fell in love with a green tea smoothie today, that or I was just miserably hot and low on energy. Miles was the worlds cutest and best baby today, I mean he always is but today was exceptional. Also must be the heat 😉

We had a pacifier crisis when I lost his pacifier (forgot it at home) and after he nursed he naturally wanted to take his nap which means pacifier in mouth, favorite blanket and left alone. Well….. The pacifier was no where to be found as were at the burger joint so I unscrew an Avent bottle and used the lid (almost worked). He realized and started crying. I nursed him totally to sleep as I stared at my food getting cold and laid him in his stroller (success). Then as we got into the car later to head back to town he wanted his pacifier since that’s his “car thing” and that’s where I had no other option. I dug around my car and found a dirty old soothie pacifier meant for newborn ages and he rejected it the whole way to a nearby baby boutique and as I ran in to buy a pacifier he passed out with the soothie and my friend Andrea holding his hand.

$13 later and an organic expensive intense pacifier things were good. Oh ya and I got suckered into buying some teething toy for another $10. (I love it though and I’ll post about it later)

Regardless of this incident the day was amazing and filled with sun, friends, green tea smoothies and expensive pacifiers.

Stay cool 🙂

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milestones

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After breakfast we hit the beach & soaked up some sun for a few hours. Miles loves being at the park or beach and could sit all day under an umbrella just watching the clouds pass by or the waves hit the shore. He even decided to take a nap on the towel today while listening to some reggae 🙂 so cute 🙂 Today we practiced a lot of sitting up, he sits for longer in the tri-pod position but actually lifted both hands and balanced for a few seconds at a time today. Once he realized he can sit and play with toys he started showing more interest.

He is also OBSESSED with water. I know he shouldn’t have too much since it’s empty calories but the second I start drinking from a glass or water bottle he smacks his lips and reaches for it. soooo cute & I just put the glass or water bottle right up to his lip and he takes a sip or two.

Anyone else with a 5.5 month old feeding purees or giving sips of water?

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Just the two of us :)

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Tuesday’s & Thursday’s Marcus is in school all day from 8-5pm and unless I want to go crazy and stay at home I usually hit the town. Miles & I walked to State St. grabbed some coffee & ended up spending almost two hours in Nordstrom’s as usual. haha. I officially have a “shoe guy”. Not sure how I feel about that….

anyways two coffees & a hundred dollars later I left with a Mother’s Day gift for my momma, a new tank, acid washed denim shorts & made a couple returns. Oh ya & a mandatory stop at the women’s lounge to change and feed Miles.

Marcus is with the guys tonight watching the NFL draft & Miles & I got home a little while ago after I worked with a client for 2 hours, did some grocery shopping at TJ’s & dropped beer off for Marcus…. now it’s bathtime then finally dinner time for me & a glass of wine here at home with my friend Sarah.

p.s. I am OBSESSED with Miles SEVEN’s jeans… he finally grew into !

❤ Happy Thursday

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SEVEN Jeans for baby

My little is growing up to be just like mommy 😉 I couldn’t help but splurge a little (what’s new) and get little Miles a pair of Seven’s I found for a great deal at Nordstrom’s rack…

that little diaper booty & those back rolls are worth every penny.

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5 months

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Oh ya! Miles turned 5 months old yesterday! What better gift than his passport finally coming in the mail 🙂

Cutest baby passport I have EVER seen ! I can’t believe he will have it till he’s 5 and hopefully fill it with stamps by then… if were lucky.
So far at 5 months this is Miles:

1. smiles and laughs at EVERYTHING
2. loves being scared and surprised by daddy
3. kicks his legs like a maniac & is only happy when kicking (like daddy)
4. Can grab at things accurately
5. Chews on everything
6. has tasted strawberries, greek yogurt and banana
7. can hold his breath underwater & loves swim lessons
8. can turn onto his side from his back but not to his tummy yet
9. Can turn from tummy to back
10. Sleeps from 7:30pm-3am (wakes to eat then sleeps till 6/7am)
11. loves his bath (we removed the newborn seat)
12. Can sit in a tri pod position from almost a min. before tipping 😉

anything i’ve missed I am sure you’ll hear about in the next few posts ❤

Happy 5 months little man… you'r the light of my life and the reason for every decision I make for the rest of my life

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